
CIRCLES
GATHERING IN CIRCLE.
Circle is a relational process for gathering with intention, listening deeply, and building community.
When we gather in Circle, we create space for people to speak, listen, reflect, and contribute with dignity. Circle can support relationship-building, shared learning, values exploration, decision-making, celebration, and response when harm or conflict occurs.
Circle is more than a seating arrangement. It is a way of being together that asks us to slow down, listen with care, share power, and recognize the worth of each person in the space.
HONOURING
CIRCLE TRADITIONS.
Gathering in circles is a global and deeply human experience. Across cultures and histories, people have gathered in circles for learning, ceremony, storytelling, music, movement, decision-making, healing, and community.
There is no single way to “do” Circle. Circle gatherings have been practiced by geographically and historically diverse groups of people for centuries, each with their own meanings, protocols, and cultural contexts.
At the same time, in the current Canadian context, and specifically in RFNL’s work, much of what we know about restorative and relational Circle practice comes from the sacred tradition of North American Indigenous Talking Circles and Peace Circles. RFNL recognizes and respects traditional Indigenous ceremonial circles and the cultural, spiritual, and community-specific knowledge they carry.
The circle processes RFNL uses and teaches are not intended to replicate, replace, or claim traditional ceremonial circles. While there are similarities, including gathering in a circle, listening deeply, using a talking piece, and grounding the process in shared values, RFNL approaches Circle as a restorative and relational process for learning, dialogue, relationship-building, reflection, and accountability.
We understand this work as something to receive and share with care. We work to honour the roots of Circle by learning from those who live within these traditions, reflecting on our own intent and positionality, respecting cultural context, and sharing what we have learned in ways that promote understanding rather than superficial engagement.
For RFNL, this responsibility is connected to our ongoing learning with Indigenous leaders, Elders, Knowledge Keepers, communities, and traditions in Newfoundland and Labrador, and with others who carry long histories of circle-based relational practice.
HOLDING CIRCLE WITH CARE.
Circle requires preparation. The purpose of the Circle, the people involved, the questions asked, and the way the space is held all matter.
A Circle used for check-in, community-building, or shared learning may require simple preparation. A Circle involving harm, conflict, difficult stories, or vulnerable experiences requires much more care, including attention to readiness, consent, support, safety, and follow-up.
Circle is invitational. Participants may choose to speak, pass, or sit in silence. A Circle keeper helps prepare the space, offers questions, supports shared guidelines, and participates with care. The keeper does not control the wisdom of the Circle, but helps create conditions for people to listen, reflect, and contribute.
In Circle, we share power. We listen to understand rather than to respond. We do our best to keep open minds and hearts, and to make room for the voices and experiences of others.
ELEMENTS OF CIRCLE.
Several elements help create and hold the Circle process.
Centrepiece
A centrepiece offers a shared focal point for participants. It may include objects, images, natural materials, poems, artwork, or other items connected to the group, topic, or shared values. TA thoughtfully prepared centrepiece gives people a place to rest their eyes and can help keep the group engaged with one another and with the purpose of the Circle. It can also support participants in speaking and listening from the heart.
Guidelines
Guidelines are often created with participants. They help name how people agree to honour one another while they are gathered.
Examples may include:
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honour the talking piece
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you may choose to pass
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speak from your own experience
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listen to understand
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trust that you will know what to say
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soften your eyes and turn to wonder
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honour confidentiality
Talking Piece
The talking piece is passed from person to person. The person holding it is invited to speak, pause, or pass. This helps slow the rhythm of conversation, reduces interruption, and supports deeper listening. A talking piece may be an object of significance for the group or Circle keeper, or something that connects to the topic or purpose of the Circle. Sharing the story of the talking piece can help build appreciation and respect.
Questions
Circle questions invite reflection, connection, and dialogue. Strong questions are open-ended and help people speak from experience rather than search for one right answer.
Keeper or Facilitator
The person holding the Circle prepares the space, offers questions, supports the process, and participates with care. The keeper helps hold the process, but the wisdom of the Circle belongs to the people gathered.

Circle is not just for harm.
Circle is often associated with responding when harm or conflict has occurred, but it is much broader than that.
Circle can be used for check-ins, classroom learning, staff meetings, community conversations, family gatherings, planning, celebration, reflection, and relationship-building. When harm does occur, Circle can help people explore accountability in a relational environment.
Circle is not an “extra” activity added on top of relational work. It is one way of approaching how we learn, gather, listen, and live together.
